Take Care of Yourself

I know it has been awhile. As I’m in the midst of overcoming a very rough season, spiritually and physically), I wanted to check in with my readers.

The main thing I want you to remember is to take care of yourself. Yesterday it was announced that the famous designer Kate Spade passed away. There are several reasons surrounding this, but I’m not going to discuss those here.

What I want you to remember is that you MUST take care of yourself. There are so many people walking around with anxiety, depression, fear, and so many more mental issues. We are so afraid of letting people in and seeking help. You must remember that YOU are YOUR own priority!! Who else can take better care of yourself than you can? This does not equate to being selfish. We face so many battles on a daily basis. We must check in with ourselves (AND your family and friends).

I cannot stress this enough. Please take care of yourself. You are loved, valued, cherished, and needed in this world. Your life matters. Your health matters. It is time to take care of your soul.

I’ll be taking my own advice and disconnecting for a season… I’ve poured out so much and restoration is needed.

Until next time.

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Managing the Pressure to do MORE

If you’re an educator, you probably have way to many things on your plate and to-do list than anyone could imagine. If you’re anything like me, you are often overwhelmed and unsure of where to start; you feel like you’re drowning! There is so much pressure coming down from school districts, administration, parents and our peers. You may often thing, “WHERE DO I BEGIN?”

            Educators often struggle with the pressure to do more. Nothing ever seems good enough. When one thing is completed, there is a hundred other things tugging as us. I want to offer a few practical tips on how to manage this pressure to do more. I am by no means an expert, but I really value investing in others.

When you feel the pressure to do more:

·      Realize that YOU ARE ENOUGH- in this moment. You are enough. You have to believe that you are an incredible educator.

·      Remember WHY you chose the profession. Take a few moments to reflect on why you wanted to be a teacher. What is your vision? (We know it wasn’t for the loads of money…lol). Keep this focus in mind.

·      Understand that you are only ONE factor on a laundry list of influences on schools and the students. As an elementary school teacher, I have my students for about 6 hours. I can only do so much. There are so many outside factors that may be more influential to them than I am. And guess what- that’s ok. I’ve accepted this truth.

·      Stay in your OWN lane. I truly believe that as long as you’re doing your very best and your students are making noticeable gains, you’re doing your job as an educator. Unfortunately, we can no longer dream that we’ll save the world. We are so limited in our abilities as educators and that’s the honest truth.

·      Set up boundaries on your time! You MUST understand that you cannot do it all. This school year, I added so much on my plate. I wanted to be involved in everything. It exhausted and overwhelmed me. We often add things on our plates honestly aren’t urgent. It is OKAY to not participate in something. Don’t let anyone place pressure on you to do something you know you honestly cannot commit to. Choose YOURSELF.

There is so much more to be said about managing the pressure to do MORE. I don’t want to overwhelm you; however, I recommend that you start with the tips above. Remember your vision as an educator!

Challenge: Write a list of everything you have to get done. After dumping everything on a list, separate your list into two columns with the following headings:

MUST get done                      Not as urgent

This list will help you focus on the necessary tasks and get rid of what matters. Earlier this year, I had on my to-do list ‘organize my file cabinet’. For what? Lol. This is definitely NOT going to happen, especially because I want to focus on digital files anyway.

2018 Goal Setting: Part 5- Setting Goals

Welcome back to day five of our goal-setting series. This is based off of Lara Casey’s 5-day goal-setting series on her blog. We started the series Monday, so don't feel like you're too far behind. You can check out part 1 here, part 2 here, part 3 here, and part four here!

I hope you’ve taken the opportunity to reflect on your 2017 and really think about the type of life you want to live. This has been an interesting experience for me. Posting five days in a row and being transparent with the world was not an easy task for me. If you know me, I’m introverted and pretty reserved unless I really trust you. I wanted to prove to myself that I can do this despite the fear that circled around in my head.

Today’s the last day of the goal-setting series. Today, we’re going to set goals. I have several goals that I want to accomplish in 2018 but I will only work on a few in the first half of the year. I also have a few personal goals that I’m choosing not to post.

My 2018 goals can be summed up….

1. God’s Word 
2. My health
3. Our marriage 
4. My time
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My word for 2018 is PRIORITIZE. I have to focus my attention on the areas God has called me to. I have neglected what is most important and placed way too much emphasis on trivial things. By God’s GRACE, I am determined to be intentional about PRIORITIZING my life so I can live on purpose.

I have saved the above graphic as a screensaver on my phone and laptop.  I’m determined to live an intentional life and no longer just wait for things to happen. I hope you’ve resolved to do the same!

Until next time.


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2018 Goal Setting: Part 4- Looking Ahead  

Welcome back to day four of our goal-setting series. This is based off of Lara Casey’s 5-day goal-setting series on her blog. We started the series Monday, so don't feel like you're too far behind. You can check out part 1 here, part 2 here, and part 3 here!

Step 1: Think about the life you want to live. Think about how you want to feel at the end of 2018 and at the end of your life.

What are you saying NO to?

·      Comparision

·      Dear

·      Procrastination

·      Endless social media scrolling

·      Hoarding stuff

·      Useless purchases

·      Mindless spending

·      Adding stuff to my plate that don’t fit in with my vision, goals, and priorities

·      More STUFF

·      Saying yes when I want to say NO.

·      Allowing word stress to have such a negative effect on my life.

·      Taking in the work that other people should be doing… (Specifically at work…)

·      STRESS

·      Trying to control stuff

·      Surrounding myself with people and things that drain me.

What are you saying YES to?

·      The fruits of the Spirit

·      REST

·      White-space

·      Simplicity

·      Prioritizing

·      Discipline

·      Focus

·      Bible reading

·      Book reading

·      Date nights <3

·      Surrounding myself with people who CELEBRATE me and pour into me


·      Strong and steadfast FAITH

·      Financial literacy

·      A slower pace

·      Our family vision

·      Persistence

·      Grace

·      Saying NO more!

Step 2: What excites you? (This may sound strange, but I’ve learned how important it is to do what excites you. We have to create opportunities for these moments in our life!). A few of mine are…

·      Spending time with my husband

·      Rest

·      A good book

·      An inspiring conversation

·      Serving others

·      Purpose

·      Having fun with my family

·      Getting a mani and pedi

·      Madison and Malachi (my niece and nephew)

·      Solitude

·      Encouraging others

·      Laughter

·      VISION

·      Traveling

·      The beach

·      Green smoothies

·      Meditating on God’s faithfulness

·      Discovering new places and things

·      Organizing and planning

Step 3: What is your definition of success based on where YOU want to be?

            My definition of success is completing the work that God has called me to do in each role and area of my life. This includes fulfilling my purpose and living a God-honoring life. Success is also reaching my goals and pursuing the vision God has for me. Living m BEST life and staying focused on what I’m called to do is critical to success.

That’s it for today! I hope this part is fun for you as it was for me! See you tomorrow for the last part of our goal-setting series!


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2018 Goal Setting: Part 3- 2017 Reflection 

Welcome back to day three of our goal-setting series. This is based off of Lara Casey’s 5-day goal-setting series on her blog. We started the series Monday, so don't feel like you're too far behind. You can check out part 1 here and part 2 here!

Step 1: We’re going to reflect in our 2017. Yes, most of us want to look straight ahead to 2018 and beyond, but it is so important to reflect on your past decisions SO THAT you will understand what went well and what didn’t. Remember, I keep stressing the importance of being intentional about the life you want to live! Like I was telling my bestie Sabine today- I don’t want life to just happen to me.

What worked in 2017:

·      Planning

·      MUCH BETTER communication with my hubby

·      No longer pursuing certain friendships

·      Attending business seminars

·      Resting a little more

·      Reading the Word more

·      Praying more

·      Speaking up for myself more

·      Being on the same page as my hubby

·      Doing something I had been putting off for a while

·      I finally started the blog that has been stirring in my heart

·      Cultivating more gratitude

·      Managing money a little better

What didn’t work in 2017:

·      Overloading my schedule

·      Spending TOO MUCH TIME on social media

·      Comparing my journey to others.

·      Not watering my own grass/celebrating the GOOD in my own life.

·      Allowing myself to feel inadequate

·      Lack of commitment to my health journey.

·      Being too concerned about other people’s opinions of me… what a waste!

·      Wasteful spending

·      Expecting perfection from myself and others

·      STRESS

·      Pursuing too many projects in this season.

·      Wasting a lot of time

·      Letting fear hold me back

Lessons I learned in 2017:

·      I must let go of control

·      Self-care must be a priority

·      Stress cannot have power over me

·      God is FOR me and NOT against me.

·      My health matters

·      I must seek God FIRST!!

·      I don’t have to take what this world gives me.

·      I don’t have to seek to fit in with any group.

·      I can confidently be myself.

·      I have been CHOSEN by GOD! It is an honor to serve Him.

·      I don’t have to apologize for wanting to do better and living a purposeful life.

·      I have to be faithful over the small stuff FIRST. I cannot give up on my dream just because its not going to the way I want it to at first. I have to keep at it.

·      My purpose isn’t for everyone, even those ‘close’ to me. Someone, somewhere, needs me to cultivate my gift and share it with the world. Someone is tied to my obedience!

·      “When people talk negatively about you, that says a lot more about them.”

·      Just because you’ve been friends with someone for several years doesn’t guarantee them to be in your corner… think on that.


That’s it for today! I encourage you to reflect on your own good things, challenges and lessons learned. We learn from our mistakes and hopefully, we’re able to plan better habits and make better choices to get us to the type of person we want to be and the life we want to live. I hope this encourages you!



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2018 Goal Setting: Part 2- Life Evaluation

Welcome back to day two of our goal-setting series. This is based off of Lara Casey’s 5-day goal-setting series on her blog. We started the series yesterday, so don't feel like you're too far behind. You can check out part 1 here.

Step 1: So, how are you? This step of the process was a little challenging for me. I looked at the main areas of my life and rated myself in those areas. Very convicting! In an effort to be transparent, the areas and how I rated myself (on a scale from 1-10) are:

Health- 2

Finances- 3/4

Friends- 6

Spiritual and personal growth- 4/5

Spouse- 8

Work- 5

Family- 6

Recreation- 2

The next step is to determine what are the MAIN three areas you want to prioritize this year and focus on. Mine are:

· Health- stress has been a big part of my life. I’m creating habits that will dramatically reduce stress as well as allow me to be healthy from the inside out.

· Finances- my husband and I had our annual end-of-the-year family vision meeting and we are absolutely committed to financial freedom. We follow Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University. We’re committed to being debt free (except our home) by paying off my student l(in 5 years or less.

·Spiritual/personal growth- I grew a lot in this area in 2017, but I KNOW there’s a way to go. My focus for this year and beyond is to truly prioritize my spiritual and personal growth. Who wants to stay the same forever?

Step 2: The next step is to reflect on this question- what matters most to YOU? Personally, what matters most to me includes:

·Having an intimate and faithful relationship with the Lord.

·Having a strong, Godly marriage that inspires others.

·Being a whole woman of faith, courage, resilience, passion, boldness, love, life, wisdom, and so mush more. I truly want to walk in the abundant life that God has called me to. I want to live in the freedom Christ has promised me.

·Being healthy: mentally, physically, etc. I truly want to be healthy inside and out.

·Living a life of financial freedom.

·Impacting others through education and service.

·Having strong relationships with family and friends.

·Living an intentional life.

·Spending my time well.

That’s it for today! I encourage you to complete these steps and truly reflect on those areas of your life. Dave Ramsey always says that you have to be completely committed to changing the areas of your life you’re not satisfied with. Why would you settle for complacency?

See you tomorrow for part 3 of our goal-setting series!


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2018 Goal-Setting: Introduction

Happy New Year! Can you believe that we’re beginning a brand new year already? I feel like January 2017 was just here. I’m sure we all went into the year with excitement about the possibilities with the spark of motivation to run full speed ahead. I LOVE the freshness a new year brings. I feel like I have a brand new opportunity to work on my vision.

This year was interesting for me. There were many highs and lows and lessons learned (you’ll read about some of those later…). My overall takeaway was how critical it is for me to be intentional about EVERY area of my life. If I can be honest, this year was somewhat of a blur. I was dealing with a lot of stress from work and I allowed that stress to control my life. Because I’m currently on a two-week semester break, I was able to spend my first week in deep reflection! This was challenging, convicting, yet liberating. I realized that I need to take ownership of MY life. No one else can live MY life better than I can! I have a new motivation to start fresh.

With that being said, I’ve been following Lara Casey for a few years and whew. She is truly an incredible light in this world. She’s provided so much inspiration regarding living an intentional life and truly Cultivating what matters in your life. Lara created an amazing goal planner called Powersheets with the purpose of teaching people to develop good goals based on the life they want to live. I cannot express how much I LOVE these Powersheets! Additionally, for the past seven years, Lara has created a FREE 5-day goal-setting series on her blog. This five-day series includes many important steps for developing good goals! I highly recommend you check it out!

This year, I am stepping out into the deep and sharing different parts of my life with you. Beginning tomorrow, I’ll go through four main steps of her goal-setting series. I’ll share my highs and lows as well as lessons I’ve learned. My heart behind this is to lead you through cultivating a more purposeful life with intentional goals as opposed to just going through life with no plan and accepting whatever it brings.  I would love for you to join me!


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I was struggling to come up with the perfect title for this post. So many titles popped up in my mind, but I chose to just stick to Rest. In this season of my life, I’m committing to be more intentional about rest.

I'm reading through Priscilla Shirer's Awaken Devotional. I read Day 30’s entry entitled ‘One-Track Mind’ last week and I've been meditating on it ever since because it stuck out to me just that much. Too often, we are committing to and doing SO MANY things. We're burnt out and exhausted and we're constantly wondering WHY! It is because God hasn't called us to do all of that! I LOVE the example she gave of Jesus, who had more pressure on Him than we can ever fathom, and how He chose to do what His Father told Him to do rather than 'falling victim to the tyranny of the urgent” (pg. 120). Whew. I pray this truth convicts you as it convicted me to my core. We're all called to specific assignments by our Father. Nothing more and nothing less. Let's be ladies who are intentional about completing God's will for OUR lives, not anyone else’s. Don’t strive so hard to keep up with everyone else is doing that you miss the mark.

 In John 17, known as the High Priestly Prayer, Jesus is praying to His Father for Himself, His disciples, and all of those who would believe in Him. He prays “I have glorified You on the earth by completing the work You gave me to do.” (Verse 4, Holman Christian Standard Bible). Jesus was confident that He completed the work His Father specifically gave HIM to do. How many of us can say the same thing?

You weren’t called to constantly walk around exhausted, overwhelmed, and unfulfilled. Rest in His purpose for you. Ask the Lord to lead you to what you need to be working on to fulfill His assignment for you. This may even mean being faithful with caring for your family or even working diligently at your full-time job. Be confident in knowing that the Lord has a specific plan FOR YOU.


Excerpt from Priscilla Shirer's Awaken Devotional.

Choose Life

It has been a while. I decided to take a break from blogging for multiple reasons. Overall, I have truly been in a dry season. I have been though some challenging times these past few months to say the least. I’ve truly been thirsty…I’ve had an unquenchable thirst.

            In one of my previous blogs, I’ve admitted that I have anxiety A LOT. Unfortunately, this monster has become a major part of my daily life. Worrying about what the day will bring, about my job performance (which is crazy since I’m Teacher of the Year…), worrying about other people’s opinions, etc. As much as I’ve told my self “it is what it is,” I’ve still allowed anxiety to win. From having to go to the E.R. because of another anxiety attack to not wanting to do things in life I’ve always enjoyed, it has been a crazy few months to say the least.

            I’ve watched a few videos and talked to a few trusted friends. Ultimately, I’ve decided that I will CHOOSE LIFE! I choose to live and bring those negative monsters under subjection to the name of Jesus. As a Christian (a true, fruit-bearing Christian…because there’s a difference…but that’s another post, lol), I had to remember where my power comes from!

            I was talking to a co-worker and I shared with her how The Holy Spirit dropped this in my spirit:

“I have not called you to be self-sufficient. Nowhere in my Word do I tell you to depend on your own strength. But, I have said many times that you need to depend on ME. I’ve told you to trust in Me...”

Wow. Talk about a slap in the face. I had to realize that I’ve been trying to control my own life. I thought I was in charge of my life’s outcome (another lie from society…but that’s another post). I believed that I could control so many things. When I felt out of control, the anxiety would flare up. I decided (and I still decide on a daily basis) to choose LIFE.

            Ultimately, we all have a purpose to fulfill on this earth. The truth is that we are NOT in control of our lives. God has given each of us tasks to complete for His glory. This takes a lot of the pressure off of me to be perfect. His word says “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9). I choose LIFE. I choose to live a GRACE-FILLED life. Knowing where my true inheritance is and Who controls the earth is a breath of fresh air. This truth provides a refreshing treat to that unquenchable thirst that seemed to never go away.

            This day and every day, I choose life.           

Be Back Soon.

Hey everyone, 

I'm still here. I wanted to check in with you. I hope you're doing well. I've stepped away from the blog just for a little bit. I'm in a season of listening to see what steps God wants me to take next. I don't believe in blogging just for show. I believe that people are assigned to me. 

While you're waiting on my return, feel free to post below or email me any prayer requests. Also, feel free to let me know what topics you would like me to discuss. 

Until next time...


This past weekend, my husband’s side of the family hosted a conference call regarding our wishes for end of life care. My uncle recommended that we set up a living will and some other important documents. It was kind of weird at first, but it made me consider the fact that our time here on earth will definitely come to an end one day. I also considered the reality of the legacy I want to leave here on earth.

So, I ask you as well: what do you want your legacy to be? How do you want to be remembered? Will people remember how rude and inconsiderate you were? How you were selfish and never helped anyone? How you were a work-a-holic and didn’t do anything meaningful with your life?

Or, do you want to be remembered as a ray of hope for everyone you meet? Do you want people to remember how you inspired them in your everyday life? What would you family say about you? Will you be remembered as a dedicated spouse, parent, daughter, sibling, etc.?

For me, I want to be the ray of hope for everyone I meet. I want people to know there is something different about me. I want my husband to shout to the world that his wife was devoted and a hard-worker. I just want to be remembered for making a difference.

We will leave this earth one day. I really need you to understand that. You do not have unlimited time to do whatever the day brings. I urge you to consider the legacy you’re leaving behind and the type of life you’re currently living.


What are your thoughts? Have you considered what you’d want your legacy to be?

Count It All Joy

"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing." -James 1:2-4 (ESV)

Do you find yourself in a trial of some sort?  Do you feel like its "always something"? I want to invite you to read and re-read the scripture above. 

James, the brother of Jesus, wrote these words to encourage believers. He wanted us to know exactly what to do as we're in the middle of a trial. What is it that you should do? COUNT IT ALL JOY- REJOICE! Rejoice knowing that the trials you are facing are pruning you for a firm, deep-rooted steadfastness. This steadfastness cannot be shaken. 

I am completing the She Reads Truth study on James (http://shereadstruth.com/2017/05/22/how-can-we-rejoice-in-suffering/) . Today was the first day of the study and it has already impacted me. My life seems to have been a series of trials lately. If I could even begin to tell you, you'd wonder how I'm still standing. 

I've learned that the solution to "getting through" these trials is to simply thank GOD that He's walking with us and that we're never alone. The troubles we face are doing something in us- helping us to become perfected in Christ. 

This week, take a moment to read James 1. I also recommend reading 1 Peter 1:6-7. 

Remember, as believers in Jesus, we are called to be SET APART. Let's live out God's Word as we bring others closer to knowing Him. LIVE out the truth you say you believe! It is not easy by any means, but the process is worth it. 

When you read the two scriptures, I'd love to know your thoughts! 

He Can Do It Again

Do you need a reminder of God’s faithfulness? Are you in a situation that is making it difficult for you to see His promises? I want to encourage you. If God did it before, He can do it again. The it is different for all of us. What do you believe God for? What is that thing you want more than anything? Have you surrendered it to God? Do you truly believe God is greater than that situation?

I was introduced to the amazingly BRILLIANT song Do It Again by Elevation Worship. I’ve listened to the words. I’ve cried. I’ve prayed. This song speaks volumes. It has built my confidence in the Creator of the Universe who cares even about the small things.

I’ve seen You move,

You move the mountains.

And I believe,

That You will do it again.

I want to remind you that God is faithful. GOD IS FAITHFUL. GOD IS FAITHFUL. He will not leave you. Have faith in Him. He is GOOD. 

Check out this beautiful acoustic version of the song:

My Journey Through Anxiety

I’ve been a little nervous about writing this post. I’ve been wanting to write this for a while, but my nerves got the best of me. I’ve procrastinated SO much and I’ve been heavily convicted because I haven’t been obedient in releasing this.

I want to define what anxiety and fear are because there is a difference. We often use them interchangeably. According to Merriam-Webster, anxiety is defined as apprehensive uneasiness or nervousness usually over something to come. Fear, on the other hand, is to be afraid of something. This could be because you feel threatened.

A few weeks ago, I attended a two-day conference catering to my high school girls at church. I co-lead a life-group of 11th graders. The leader of the conference asked me to share my experience about suffering from anxiety. Whew! I immediately had that anxious feeling. I mean, having to talk about my experience battling anxiety literally gave me anxiety at that point. “I know you can do it. Pray through it,” she assured me.

I was forced to sit and think through my journey. I vividly remember going through my teenage years as a serious perfectionist. I studied hard. I earned all As. If something proved hard for me, I would seriously stress out. I don’t exactly know where this spirit of anxiety came from, but boy, it is rough. While my peers seemed to be living a carefree life, I was thinking about my future. Now, there isn’t anything wrong with this, until the future I wanted started consuming me. I had a plan for my life: what I wanted to do when I grew up, where I wanted to attend college, the age I wanted to be married and have kids, etc. When I saw that these things were happening as I planned for them to, I stressed out. My face would break out, I’d get migranes, I’d feel sick.

It took me years to realize exactly what I was going through. My family would always say “there’s always something wrong with you. You need to stop being so hard on yourself and go with the flow. Suck it up and do what you have to do…” This proved to be easier said than done. I literally couldn’t turn it off. I was the oldest child and I felt like I had to prove myself. There were unfortunately several people in my family who thought I would fail (for several reasons…for a later post). I worked hard to prove myself and my abilities to everyone. I believe this made my anxiety increasingly worse. College came and my anxiety showed out. I thought I had somehow grown out of this cycle, but it only worsened.

Late last year, I ended up having two anxiety attacks within two days of each other at work. Man. I felt like I was dying. I literally couldn’t breathe! My heart rate was extremely high which is very unusual for me. That’s when it hit me. I knew something had to change. I could no longer live in a constant state of anxiety about what was to come. As much as I thought I was in complete control of everything, I just wasn’t.

As a Christian, I’ve devoted myself to following Christ. I had to go back to this truth and remember that I’ve decided to trust Him with every decision of my life. Below are some practical tips for what I’ve done and what I’m currently doing as I battle anxiety:

·  Remember Who I serve. When you become a Christian, you aren’t promised a perfect life; however, you are promised the Holy Spirit who walks with you every moment. ASK Him to help you and lead you. Then,

·  Don’t be afraid to see professional help. I’ve learned that this is a BIG misconception, especially in the Black community. We don’t think seeking professional help is necessary. I cannot reiterate this enough; SEEK HELP. You have nothing to lose.  Don’t miss this step.

·   Know that you’re not in this alone. There are many people who struggle from anxiety. It really does help to talk out what you’re going through. You’re able to help someone else while simultaneously walking through your struggle.

·  Take care of yourself. I’ve learned to do this recently. Take off work if you need to. Turn off the phone. Take a few hours of solitude. No one will take care of you like YOU will take care of you.

I pray this blessed you. I am still walking through my own journey, but the difference is I have relinquished a lot of control over my life. I am able to help others around me who battle anxiety and need HOPE. I trust the process.

Let me know if you do/did battle anxiety and what you’ve done or what you are doing to walk through it.

A (Personal) Call to Endurance

It’s been over a month since I’ve posted on the blog. If I can be completely transparent, I haven’t been inspired to say anything. I don’t want to post just for the sake of posting. My goal is to be completely intentional with everything I do here. It has been a packed month with lots of amazing things occurring, but I’ve been in an emotional rut. Allow me to explain….

            Lately, when I’ve approached The Lord in my quiet time, it seems like I’ve been going through the motions. I feel numb. I’m exhausted. I’d rather sleep. You see, I recently found out that my mother is battling cancer. It has been less than a year since my stepdad passed away from stage 4 cancer. Imagine how I felt when my mom gave us the news. I literally felt like a car had hit me. I didn’t even cry at first. I was completely frozen. Then the tears began to fall. I never thought I would hear those words from my mom. I was crushed to say the least. Since then, I’ve literally felt like I’ve been going through the motions of everyday life. I’ve been a little frustrated at the Lord.

            “Lord, I don’t understand! How could this happen? Cancer isn’t prevalent in our family. Our family is still coping and grieving from the loss of our daddy. I just don’t understand Lord. What if I lose my mom? How could I go on with life?” These and so many more thoughts ran through my mind. I was mad!


            It was in the darkest moment, the stillness of night, when these words came to me: “For who can stop the Lord almighty?”. I was reminded who I’ve devoted my life to. I serve the Mighty God of the Universe. I am not left to walk through the darkness alone. I felt the Holy Spirit telling me to ENDURE. This earthly life is soooo temporary, whether you want to believe it or not. This is just a small part of the story. The challenges we face here on earth are often meant to build our character and teach us a lesson. This is part of the process.

Merriam-Webster defines endure as to undergo (as a hardship) especially without giving in. As I poured everything out to the Lord, I was led to revisit Hebrews 12:1-2(HCSB). To summarize these two powerful scriptures, we as believers are reminded to lay aside anything that hinders us from running the race of life. “Let us run with endurance the race that lies before us, keeping our eyes on Jesus, the Source and Perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that lay before Him endured a cross and despised the shame and has sat down at the right hand of God’s throne” (verse 2). 

Although I read these verses many times, I couldn’t help but gain a sense of peace because Jesus, the Perfect Son of God, endured more than I ever will; however, His eyes were focused on the call His Father has on His life. Wow.

I was challenged to first consider those things that are hindering me from running the race He’s called me to confidently. Then, I was reminded to stay in my own lane and keep my eyes on HIM. Not to get distracted from the main goal of eternity with Jesus.

Live your life intentionally, keeping your eyes on The Source. Let me know your experience of having to endure. Remember, you’re not in this alone.



When it feels like you’re just going through the motions.

Have you ever felt like you were just going through the motions? Waking up, going to work, coming home, going to bed, just to do the same thing again tomorrow? You felt like you didn’t have a purpose; like you were just living for someone else.

Well, I’ve been there. I still go through this. Feeling like I’m not good enough. Feeling like everyone else is doing great things except me. Feeling discouraged and purposeless. This is a defeated mindset. It took me a while to realize exactly what it was. I was living my life as a victim, allowing the circumstances I was facing to run me and have such a negative impact on how I was feeling. Now, life does happen and we do have “those days”; however, the issue is when we allow circumstances to dictate how we feel all the time.

I can admit I walked in a dry season and didn’t know exactly what I was supposed to be doing. I was comparing my life to others and so caught up in their lives to the point where I wasn’t minding my own business. I had no joy. I was literally waking up each morning, going to work, coming home, feeling sorry for myself, going to bed and waking up just to do it all over again. I got tired of going through the motions.

I’m so thankful for a husband who won’t sit back and allow me to keep feeling sorry for myself. He literally told me I needed to get over myself and realize how blessed I actually was. I’m not in need of anything. Every single one of my needs is met. I meditated on that truth. I surrounded myself around people who poured into me and stopped investing in friendships and anything else that drained me. I invested in myself.

If you feel like you’re just going through the motions, I want to offer you some encouragement:

1.    Cultivate gratitude!! Write a list of people and things you are thankful for. Remember, you are more fortunate than many people on this earth. As a Christian, I like to sit in solitude and talk to God, praising Him for how far He’s carried me. I also use this time to tell Him how I’m feeling, too. He cares.

2.    Consider the big picture. Take some time to ask God and yourself what is you were meant to do in life. We are all created for a specific purpose. Although each of our purposes may be different, they all involve serving other people. When you take your eyes off yourself and focus on serving others, you will get fulfillment and a sense of gratitude.

3.    Switch up your daily routine. Instead of going straight home from work, try working out, taking a walk, or taking a new route. We often get into a rut because we do the same thing over and over. Switch it up! This is your life. You are in control of what you do with your time.

4.    Find a new hobby. For me, I’m really trying to like exercising (lol). I’m not at the point where it’s a favorite, but I love the way it makes me feel. Consider community service or even doing something you’re interested in more often. Life is meant to be enjoyed.

5.   Invest in community. This is critical. We were not meant to live life alone. Pour into others. Also, be intentional and actually allow yourself to be poured into. You would be surprised what you can gain from others.

I want you to remember that you have more control over your life than you think. You don’t have to just sit idly and allow the circumstances of life to keep you down. Take ownership! Invest in yourself!

What about you? Do you have anything else you do when you feel like you’re going through the motions?



Top 6 Lessons I learned in 2016

Apparently, 2016 was a hard year for many people! But, we got through it. I'd like to think that means there is still a purpose that each of us needs to fulfill. 

As promised, here are the top 6 lessons I learned in 2016:

1.     The Lord and what He wants for my life MUST be first. Pursuing Him and His ways have to be a priority. Anything I try to do without seeking Him intentionally will fail!

2.     I have to communicate with my husband more effectively. Being that I am such an ambitious person, I tend to start new projects (I even applied for a graduate program… lol) without telling him until the last minute. Because I consider myself to be a Christ follower, and since I am committed to His ways, I have to trust my husband to lead me. Fortunately, Leland isn’t a dictator. He doesn’t try to run me! However, I want us to communicate about everything and I don’t want there to be any surprises.

3.     Everyone isn’t for me! Man… this will be another post. The main point: Some people can’t stand to see you actually doing better for yourself and working on your purpose. Some people just want to see you as miserable as them. They tend to think you're still the same person from years ago.... Nah, man.

4.     I have to make my health a priority. The past few years, I've has some minor health issues. Thank God for help! 

5.     It’s okay to rest. Don’t pay any mind to those people who claim “you can sleep when you die.” Oh, ok… It is CRITICAL for you to rest so you can truly put your best into your purpose and assignments. 

6.     I’m not getting any younger. I have to stop walking in fear and worrying about what others may say and think about what God has called me to. Everyone wont understand and it is really okay. I have to walk confidently in what I have been called to do.

What does intentional living look like here? Dwelling in God’s presence. Allowing Him to fill me up. Doing more things that stir my soul. Spending time with people who celebrate me. 

What about you? How was your 2016? What lessons did you learn? Leave a comment or contact me! I’d love to hear from you! 

The hardest year of my life: 2016 Reflection

Like most people, 2016 was a hard year for me. I was stressed and overwhelmed to the max (mainly because of the pressure I put on myself and the extra stuff I added to my own schedule). Most importantly, I lost my daddy. This man was my hero. Although he wasn’t my biological father, he’s been my daddy since I was 7 or so (more on this in another blog…). My daddy fought stage 4-pancreatic cancer for several years. He fought like a champ. He would go to work, which was nearly two hours away from our house, and work the best he could. Did I mention he was taking chemo treatments at this time? Although he was in pain most of the time, he would always say, “I know that I still have to take care of my family.” You can imagine the heartbreak we all has when he was rushed to the hospital the afternoon of April 30, 2016. I didn’t know that would be his last day with us. My two-year-old nephew saw everything. He saw the fire truck and emergency response team “put grandpa in the red truck”. Losing my daddy caused me the greatest pain I’ve faced in my life because of the legacy he left us. Now, eight months later, I don’t cry about it everyday anymore. I am able to remember him and laugh about the memories we shared. More importantly, I’m able to thank God for the way he raised us as his own. Words cannot express my gratitude. I’m still on a healing journey, but I’m grateful for my circle pouring into me.          

            Additionally, I struggled greatly with anxiety this past year to the point where I thought I was going to die (another post). My schedule was packed because I wanted to prove to myself and others that “I can do it all.” This was definitely a mistake. I WAS SO STRESSED OUT! Many people didn’t know because I put on a brave face. Never again. I learned so many lessons this year, and prayerfully, I will never have a year like it again.

--> Next time, I will post the top six lessons I learned in 2016!

What about you? How was your 2016? Leave me a comment below or email me. I'd love to hear from you! 


"Someone else is writing a blog?"

I know what you're thinking. "There are already so many other blogs out there! Why does she feel the need to start one??" Well, trust me, I tried to get away from it. The thought crossed my mind on multiple occasions, but I ignored it. I thought exactly what you probably did. BUT...

After attending my friend and mentor, Ty Lewis’ (@speakerofthehouse14) purpose party a few weeks ago, I  was so convicted about not doing what The Lord placed on my heart. So what other people have a blog? What if people don't read it? What if people talk about me? What if.....? Well, I firmly believe that everyone is called to certain people. After the hardest year of my life in 2016, I am committed to living intentionally. I’m tired of seeing the people around me walking around in circles without hope. I am committed to sharing what I know within my sphere of influence. I am committed to living out my purpose and ensuring that each of my daily decisions align with that purpose.

The vision of my blog is to provide a safe space for women to grow and have access to resources that lead them to a more intentional life. Women need to know it is perfectly okay not to be perfect. Women need to know it is perfectly okay NOT to have it all together. This truth, however, is not an excuse to ignore the areas we need to work on. Hopefully you’re down for the ride. If so, welcome aboard!